Communication
is the basis of human relationships and it is especially important to
communicate effectively in a school setting where it is the channel of
education and knowledge sharing. Furthermore, positive relationships between
teachers and pupils make it possible to provide valuable education and a
nurturing environment that facilitates personal development for children.
Skills
needed to communicate with children and young people
When
communicating with children it is essential to be clear, concise, age
appropriate and supporting needs and abilities. On the one hand, this involves
using words and phrases that the children will understand, and on the other
hand, actively listening to the pupils and responding positively to whatever
they have to say. Moreover, it is advisable to encourage children to ask
questions and check their understanding by follow-up questions.
The
teaching assistant needs a range of interpersonal skills to be able to
facilitate effective communication with the pupils. The adult has to be
available and make time to be able to listen to the children actively.
Appropriate non-verbal skills support the success of communication, and they
include facing the pupil, leaning slightly towards them, smiling, nodding, etc.
Following the rules of turn-taking and being generally polite to the children
(no shouting, no talking over people’s heads, etc.) shows them that they are
respected by the other person and gives them a positive example to follow when
developing inter-personal skills in their own interactions. If the adult is
relaxed, confident and articulate during interactions, uses the vocabulary
appropriate for the pupils’ age and abilities, and encourages them to respond
and take an active part in the communication process, the children will develop
a positive attitude towards social interactions. (Kamen 2011, p. 61)
How
to adapt communication with children and young people
When
communicating with children and young people we have to be aware of their age
and current level of communication skills. It has to be clear what kind of
communication we can expect from a child of a certain age (only words, phrases,
or simple sentences following grammatical rules etc.) and what they will
comprehend from what we say to them. With younger children it is advisable to
use one word instructions or only simple sentences. When they form short
sentences without grammatical indicators (e.g. missing plural or tense
markers), we can show our comprehension by repeating the sentence in the
correct form, which also facilitates their language development. Older
children, who can already form sentences using correct grammar, can benefit
from the introduction of new vocabulary and more complex sentence structures in
conversations with adults. (Kamen 2011, p. 215)
The
context of communication can be in connection with learning or just casual
social interaction. At the lessons and educational activities, the learning
material provides context and topic for communication between the adult and the
children. During these activities the pupils have to learn to focus to the
topic of the communication and with the help of the teacher try to shut out
distractions. Social interactions in the breaks between lessons provide
opportunity for the teaching assistant to build positive relationships with the
pupils, but stay in a professional manner. These informal conversations, e.g.
during meals, are similar to those children have at home with their family
during dinner. Therefore they provide an excellent opportunity for the adults
to get to know the pupils in a more relaxed way.
Whatever
the context and occasion of the conversation, the teaching assistant has to
keep it in mind that they are in a caring role; therefore their communications
with the children have to formal and professional. Every statement or instruction
has to be clear and unambiguous to avoid false accusations of prejudice or
favouritism. Constant checking for
understanding ensures that the children receive communication appropriate
for their age and abilities and they can
comprehend the conversations with the adults. Physical contact may help to
direct the child attention towards ourselves and show our empathy but we have
to minimise its use to occasions when they are really needed and meaningful.
Differences
between communicating with adults and children/young people
When
communicating with children, we have to make sure we are listening actively to
what they say and we are available for conversation whenever they feel the need
to share something. Being clear and concise when giving instructions or explaining
something to them is essential, as well as using vocabulary and grammatical
structures suitable to their age and abilities. General politeness and empathy
does not only show our respect but also teaches them mannerly conversation.
When
communicating with other adults who are not colleagues in the school, e.g.
parents and carers, they have to make sure they use a language that is
understandable by everyone. It is not advisable to use jargon and technical
language with people who are not experts in this area. Also, a teaching
assistant has to be careful not to try and answer questions that are beyond
their knowledge and expertise. In these cases the parents’ questions have to be
referred to the class teacher or a teacher specialised in the field. Furthermore,
parents and carers know their children the best therefore they are invaluable
sources of information for the teachers and have to be involved in
communication about the pupils’ welfare and development. (Kamen 2011, p. 70)
Communication
between members of the teaching staff has to be effective and serve the quality
education of the pupils. Confidential information should only be shared with
those who are involved in the relevant aspects of the child’s life. Conflicts
or disagreements are best to be settled outside the classroom, not in front of
the pupils. Even if children do not comprehend every detail of a certain conflict,
they are able to pick up on the nervous tones and influenced in a negative way
in their social development.
Adapting
communication to meet different needs of adults
When
communicating with other adults we have to pay attention to any aspects that
might cause difficulty for them in expressing themselves or comprehending what
is being said. Problems can arise when the family is from a different country
and has different social norms regarding conversations, and/or language
difficulties. Speaking clearly and also providing opportunities for the parents
to speak can help to create a positive and trusting relationship. We have to
value all contributions and if they are struggling to express themselves
properly, we help can them with the specialised vocabulary they are not
necessary familiar with. We have to be attentive and patient towards people
with hearing difficulties or speech impairment, who might have a hard time
understanding us if we do not speak loud enough or need time and effort in
expressing what they want to say. If a teacher is able to use sign language,
communication with those with hearing problems can go much smoother. Whatever
the problem is, as a teacher or teaching assistant you have to be confident and
professional when communicating with other adults.
Managing
disagreements between TA’s and children/young people and TA’s and other adults
Whether
a disagreement is between teaching assistant and pupils or teaching staff and
parents, certain interpersonal and social skills are useful in resolving the
conflict. Good perception of the clashing interests and sensitivity to the
different points of view can help us to see both sides of the story without
agreeing with each. Conflicts often arise because of differing expectations
from each side which are not met. When helping to resolve the disagreement, we
have to try and find a common ground for both parties, where we can start and
create ideas to bring the expectations closer to each other.
During
this process we have to remain calm and polite and listen to all points of
view. Making personal comments will not help the situation because we have to
remember, most of the time the problem is not with the individual but only
something they have said or done. If the disagreement cannot be resolved
privately between the two parties, it is advisable to seek professional
mediation. Supervisors always have to be informed about the issue, even if the
conflict is resolved by the two parties.
Reference
list
Kamen,
Teena, 2011, Teaching Assistant’s
Handbook Level 3, Hodder Education